Saturday, April 09, 2011
Monday, March 14, 2011
Wednesday, March 09, 2011
Parents, Don't Spoil the Kids.
人地話，在兩個人的世界裡如果出現第三者，未免就會太擠迫！
所指的其實是很多小夫妻當有了孩子之後，昔日甜甜蜜蜜的景象也會一去不返，時常因為照顧孩子問題而發生爭執，搞到家嘈屋閉。
閨中密友 Alice 掹車邊都屬 80 後，老公細她 1 年，當然名正言順是 80 後，這一代的男人都是喝遊戲機的奶水長大，每日放工回家就開始打機，以前二人世界的時候都不覺得好有問題，因為 Alice 本身也是個上網購物狂，兩人的家居生活正是各有各天地，河水不犯井水。但自從上年 BB 出世之後，「誰來餵奶」、「誰來換片」、「誰來烚奶樽」等一連串的問題，就成為兩人鬧交的主因。男人最愛推說自己不懂，結果什麼都由女人一個做，基於女人天生愛計較，加上產後荷爾蒙影響，於是一看見老公懶懶閒甚至在打機就會眼火爆！初則冷言冷語，繼而家嘈屋閉，Alice 回想這段黑暗的日子足足過了半年有多，後來大家都覺得不能長此下去，於是就冷靜地坐下來說出自己的想法和對對方的期望。現在，他們已經平均分配照顧 BB 的工作，也協議盡量不要為 BB 而爭執，反而好好去享受湊仔的樂趣！
其實夫妻之間一個扮好人一個扮壞人的方法已經 out，專家指出家庭教育必須要貫徹一致，不只是父母，就連祖父母和親戚甚至工人都應該以一致的方向去教孩子，這樣既可以減少大家的磨擦，亦能避免孩子「走法律罅」！ 好多夫妻都埋怨兩個人對得耐會悶，所以當計畫擴大至三人世界時，都要預計有可能會出現的爭執，雙方早日溝通清楚，才可避免家嘈屋閉的情況。 from TrendyMom |
都說男人來自火星女人是來自金星，大家都是初次為人父母，在湊仔方面肯定各有各的一套理念，弊在孩子是兩人的「共同資產」，人只有一個，而父母就有兩個，夫妻間要取得共識和平湊仔實在不易。 其中打機問題肯定是最常見的導火線。
對於一些小朋友較大的父母來說，在品格教育方式的分歧，往往成為雙方爭吵的原因。女人天生個性敏銳，尤其是全職母親由朝到晚面對著小朋友，他的一言一行都盡收眼底，特別容易將孩子的犯錯過失，像超市積分般累積下來，再加上在學校和補習社遇到其他孩子易有比較，結果就顯得特別苛刻嚴厲。相反，男人天生不計較，教仔都特別輕鬆放縱，放工放假只想同仔女痛快地玩餐飽，而且寬容度又大，經常會包庇孩子的錯失，太太看在眼中就會覺得丈夫很不合作，而且有扮好人之嫌！
Tuesday, January 04, 2011
Back To December
How's life? Tell me, how's your family?
I haven't seen them in a while
You've been good, busier than ever
We small talk, work and the weather
Your guard is up, and I know why
Because the last time you saw me
Is still burned in the back of your mind
You gave me roses, and I left them there to die
So this is me swallowing my pride
Standing in front of you, saying I'm sorry for that night
And I go back to December all the time
It turns out freedom ain't nothing but missing you
Wishing I'd realized what I had when you were mine
I go back to December, turn around and make it alright
I go back to December all the time
These days, I haven't been sleeping
Staying up, playing back myself leaving
When your birthday passed, and I didn't call
Then I think about summer, all the beautiful times
I watched you laughing from the passenger side
And realized I loved you in the fall
And then the cold came, the dark days
When fear crept into my mind
You gave me all your love, and all I gave you was goodbye
So this is me swallowing my pride
Standing in front of you, saying I'm sorry for that night
And I go back to December all the time
It turns out freedom ain't nothing but missing you
Wishing I'd realized what I had when you were mine
I go back to December, turn around and change my own mind
I go back to December all the time
I miss your tan skin, your sweet smile
So good to me, so right
And how you held me in your arms that September night
The first time you ever saw me cry
Maybe this is wishful thinking
Probably mindless dreaming
But if we loved again, I swear I'd love you right
I'd go back in time and change it, but I can't
So if the chain is on your door, I understand
This is me swallowing my pride
Standing in front of you, saying I'm sorry for that night
And I go back to December
It turns out freedom ain't nothing but missing you
Wishing I'd realized what I had when you were mine
I go back to December, turn around and make it alright
I go back to December, turn around and change my own mind
I go back to December all the time, all the time